Its connection surpasses the bond of a man and a woman same-sex marriages are illegal in Pakistan. To understand the idea of Pakistani marriages, one must understand what baradari is.
It roughly translates as brotherhood but also applies to clans and caste. If one is to get married, their baradari is also discussed. This is to ensure that there is no confrontation between the two families. This system is to ensure security to both the husband and wife. Should anything go wrong between them, the people of baradari participate to resolve the crisis. Baradari also reflects many values, but these values come with prejudice, stereotypes and biases. The idea runs parallel to the caste system to an extent.
Many elders of the society look down upon the idea of having their daughter or son married in a different baradari. The concept of marrying into another baradari seems progressive, however, many conservatives do not encourage such practises. Furthermore, it even goes as far as pinpointing specific ethnicities.
While people of different ethnic groups get married, it is sometimes met with prejudice and personal biases. Arranged marriages are a centuries-old tradition and it honours the seniority of elders and parents. If anyone were to dispute the arranged marriage, they will be judged and scrutinised. It is almost as if one standing up to their parents is a hostile act.
For parents, it is a responsibility to have their children married exactly the way they choose. This responsibility was presented to them by previous generations.
Arranged marriages are still practised in the west amongst the South Asian diaspora but are evolving towards love marriages gradually, as individuals are finding their own partners. In Pakistan, an arranged marriage is still a valuable privilege that parents hold for their sons and daughters. If they do not approve but the marriage still goes ahead, it will be considered an act of rebellion. While love marriages do exist and are getting popular in Pakistan, arranged marriages are often looked up to be the ideal form of matrimonial settlement.
There are a number of reasons as to why arranged marriage is considered a priority in the eyes of Pakistani men and women. Many Pakistani men and women believe in the intelligence of their parents.
Though they may not always agree on everything, marriage is one thing that they leave to their parents. It is also likely that they will house their other sons and their families. The oldest male member of the family heads the household affairs.
In order to ensure stability, his sons get married to women that he thinks are suitable. That is especially true when all the family members live in one house. But not all families are joint. If a couple can afford to live somewhere else then they are permitted to do so, but they are supposed to keep in contact with their families. Arranged marriages allow families to intervene if things go wrong.
A sense of security is there for both the wife and husband to guarantee emotional and economic stability. In Pakistani society, if marriages are not arranged and families do not get along, it is likely that the marriage will not last. An arranged marriage is preferred because it enables families to make sure that a marriage is sustained for a lifetime.
The sustainably of a marriage is considered to be crucial. One of the more infamous topics related to arranged marriages is dowry. The practice is patriarchal. For some, marriage is a synonym for taking a leap of faith. Someone once said that marriage, regardless of it being a love or arranged, is a leap of faith. If you do love marriage the same will ruin the relationship," one user concluded. Your comment will be displayed after the approval.
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Ladies, I want to hear from you too on this. Replying to X. While her immediate family were supportive, a wider circle were colder. The biggest critics of the game were the "Rishta Aunties" - a nickname in Hindi and Urdu for meddlesome older women, not necessarily blood relations, who scout for younger women at weddings to pair up with an eligible young man.
They aren't doing it for monetary compensation but purely for the thrill of setting up a good match. The aunties, says Balagamwala, have a set of criteria for what makes a desirable girl.
They're seen and not heard. They're good home-makers, ready to support her husband and his ambitions," she says. The release of the game struck a nerve with many young women. South Asian women often retain a lot of their traditional values and culture, even if they are born in the US or Europe, so the subject resonated with them.
The reaction from young South Asian men surprised her the most. They were overwhelmingly positive. Many sent her direct messages thanking her for explaining the female perspective.
Some asked her out. More than 50 strangers from the internet proposed. However, it's now been six months and they've started up again. Last week four men known to her family expressed interest in marriage. These aunties, when they call my mum, actually say, 'Oh we're going to have a green-eyed daughter-in-law. Follow Megha Mohan on Twitter meghamohan. This video can not be played To play this video you need to enable JavaScript in your browser. The board game sparking debate about arranged marriage.
Some of the proposals Balagamwala received - in the background, her many Facebook friend requests.
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