A Great Message from Dan Stone. I decided to delay this posting until a few days after the New Year actually started in order to give us all time to "settle in". Flush with the excitement of champagne corks popping and fireworks lighting the sky, it is a bit too easy to make resolutions based only on emotion. For instance, how long does the average diet last? Until we get hungry, of course.
What we Read More. Shop the Andy Andrews Store. We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. Do not sell my personal information. Manage consent. How is it that some people can bounce back and find a way to overcome misfortune and defeat? Their mental fortitude lifts them up to seek opportunities instead of dwelling in despair. If you want to find a way to continue to grow and achieve a following in the hardest of times, read on.
Here are 10 ways successful people push through adversity and bolster themselves, even when facing disaster. They say laughter is the best medicine. But sometimes just stepping back and seeing the humor of the situation can help lighten your mood and allow you to move forward.
You may not be chuckling in the midst of a major setback, but give yourself some time. Finding your sense of humor when facing adversity is a healthy way to build resilience, no matter how bad your situation. Being prepared means thinking though the worst-case scenarios and considering how you would react.
What would your plan of action would be if a crisis hit? Running through potential disasters on a regular basis builds mental strength and flexibility to overcome mishaps or catastrophes in real life.
But if the worst happens, having thought through how you'd react will keep you from panicking and help you stay calm and rational. How did you overcome adversity that time? What got your through? Your past experiences can help you find your inner strength and resilience.
It may even be necessary to encounter the defeat, so that we can know who we are. So that we can see, oh, that happened, and I rose. I did get knocked down flat in front of the whole world, and I rose. I didn't run away -- I rose right where I'd been knocked down. And then that's how you get to know yourself. Adversity is a great teacher. However, you will have to engage in some self-reflection. One has got to reach out for it, it does not simply come. When one reaches out to a higher power, the higher power is able to extend its grace upon them.
Although the first step is courage, the absence of grace can make the experience bitter and very painful. A support system both in the physical sense and in a spiritual sense is very important.
Granted, not all of us believe in a higher power, but the reality is we did not create ourselves, there has to be a force higher and greater than ourselves and often we can find healing and deep comfort in adverse situations. In our pursuit of grace from above to handle adverse situations, we gain clarity and understanding, adversity has a way of stripping away level headed thinking and often leaves one bitter and negative in how they think or approach the situation at hand.
Grace leaves one better not bitter, and when you feel rejuvenated, one is able to make level headed decisions that lead to a positive outcome, it gives you a better understanding of the situation at hand, and it gives one peace.
Ultimately, ones greatest strength, deep courage, grace and resilience will come effectively when one find purpose in the adversity, often purpose stems from a power that is higher and greater than oneself. Death, a break up, a job loss or even a fatal car accident are some adverse examples, these and many others are able to birth resilience characteristics within.
The American psychological association suggests 10 ways in which adverse situations build resilience. Adverse situations help in making good connections. The association suggests that a healthy relationship with friends, family and colleagues can build a resilience character within one. It also suggests that joining faith-based organisations can assist in strengthening character and resilience.
Avoid seeing your crisis as insurmountable problems. The association suggests that one cannot avoid adverse situations, but one has to learn to see beyond them and draw strength from these situations, this they suggest builds resilience. Accept that change is part of living. This the association suggests as the first step at dealing with adverse situations to find healing and assist in gaining resilience.
Move toward your goals. Building a resilient character will require you to make necessary steps in doing so. Finding a hobby or something healthy to occupy your mind during an adverse situation is what will bring about a positive mind-set, ultimately birthing resilience.
Take decisive actions. Do not detach yourself from the situations, feel it and go through it. Take decisive actions that work toward healing. Look for opportunities for self-discovery. Many people who have gone through trying times and experienced the most adverse situations have a better knowledge of self and are living fulfilled lives. Many of them have a heightened spiritual insight and are emotionally and mentally strong as they have chosen to be proactive in finding resilience.
Nurture a positive view of self. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience. Maintain a hopeful outlook. Try visualising what you want the end goal to be and not what you are currently going through. Take care of yourself. There is a phase where one is allowed to be selfish.
Do what makes you happy, exercise and keep your mind occupied with positive activities and engagements, and this will keep you level headed and resilient. Keep things in perspective. It is very easy during adverse situations to blow things out of proportion. Keep things into perspective and always keep a level-headed demeanour. Writing things down helps track your emotions and keeps things in perspective for a resilient and better you.
The aim is to thrive and not to break at adversity. Resilience is far less than being strong and more about how one thinks says Razzetti [ 3 ] and further suggests that building resilience requires more than grit. This is proven beyond reasonable doubt to be true. Nelson Mandela is an icon that instantly comes to mind, and he was detained and imprisoned for over two decades, separated from his family and his iconic wife, Winnie Madikizela-Mandela and their children. He was denied permission to bury his beloved mother and first born son, he was tormented mentally and emotionally and yet he was able to reconcile all races and the entire country, although he receives backlash for this even after his death, he is still revered and lauded throughout the world.
Not many people would endure the immense adversity and pain Nelson Mandela endured but, his resilient spirit, his graceful spirit and courage led him to forgive. Psychiatrist Wolin [ 4 ] defines resiliency as the capacity to rise above adversity.
We have to be able to tell ourselves when things go wrong that the situation cannot take over our lives, this too shall pass. Psychologist Emmy Werner [ 5 ] spent over 40 years studying children from disadvantaged, unstable and chaotic families.
Resilience is a choice. Much as the other previously mentioned traits such as courage and grace, resilience too require one to make a purposeful and intentional decision to adapt. The study by Werner had the following outputs; most of the children succeeded because of self-control, they made a decision that they would not allow their backgrounds and environment to define them.
Studies have shown that spiritual support, cultural rituals prepare individuals for some of the most adverse conditions and situations. Resilience requires discipline, like courage; it is not a trait you are born with, it is one that you have to work on daily. This does not mean that one will never have a breaking point, even the most resilient of people break at some point. Razzetti emphasises that resilience is critical to recover from everyday adverse events, not just from traumatic ones.
Leading and living with empathy has never been more important in our world than right now. Empathy is the ability to identify with the challenges that other people face and to see those challenges from their perspective.
They can trigger post-traumatic growth. Raise your hand if you have heard of post-traumatic stress disorder? Most people have. Keep your hand up if you have heard of post-traumatic growth PTG. Post-traumatic growth is the experience of positive change after going through a significantly stressful event. Researchers have discovered five common themes that people tend to report after experiencing a significantly stressful event:.
They build self-efficacy. Self-efficacy is the belief or the confidence in your ability to overcome obstacles and challenges and succeed. I spent almost four years working in a program that taught Army drill sergeants how to teach resilience strategies to other soldiers in their units.
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